Sexy Mama

What comes to mind when you hear sexy mama. To me, I think a hot mom. I am totally fine with those words. But lately I have been going through something as a women and a mom. I am having trouble with the way I dress. Now my clothes are fitting very nicely because of my lifestyle and all. But that’s not the reason for this weirdness. I am having the hardest time with feeling comfortable in “sexy” clothing. And I am not talking about like super reveling outfits or anything crazy. Just like low cut dresses and shorter shorts nothing super outrageous.

I did get in trouble at church for not wearing sleeves. Oops!

 Since having my son I just don’t think it’s appropriate for me. Now before baby I would wear a low cut shirt, backless, short dress like nobodies business. But right now I don’t think I can. I don’t feel like a mom when I wear that. Davis and I have always had a clear understanding when it comes to this. What I wear is my choice. No one else has the right to tell me what I can wear.  He met me wearing the clothing that I like and that’s one thing that attracted him to me so why would that change. I know you adapt and change your style over the years but hey I am still a young woman. Now I don’t judge other mom’s who dress sexy and reveling. I actually like what other women wear so it’s not like I see a mom wearing a mini skirt and think badly or anything like that.  Is it just me? 

This is before Charles. It's a shorted dress with lace so to me it was riskay..

Spaghetti straps and super low cut cleavage no biggie before baby.

I recently I bought a couple of little black dresses and I still can’t bring myself to wear them because they are to low-cut. (not my actual dresses but pretty close. Dress 1 and Dress 2) Davis loves the way they look but I think they show too much chest. As a rule for dressing I have always been on the conservative side. If I show leg my chest is covered, if I wear a tank top I wear a cardigan or jeans. So I only show skin in one of the major areas. It’s what works best for me.

Short shorts no cleavage out.

Now here I am a rule breaker, chest arms and legs. Sexy Mama.

 But now I want to wear a tank under my dress and throw a sweater or cardigan over the whole outfit. So am I alone in this? To my mama’s out there is there anything that you won’t wear because you’re a mom?

Now I'm a mom so I wear this! Lol

 I would love to hear back from some of you who have gone through a similar experience. I hope you are all having an amazing week only 2 more days till the start of the weekend! 

Stopping breastfeeding: Part Dos

It’s been about a month since I completely stopped breastfeeding. It was not easy but I am glad to have sole control over my body. I can now leave my son without fear that he won’t drink or eat because I am not there to feed him. 

Added bonus I can have a few beers without having to worry if I have had too much. Now after the initial days of stopping I still had pain. It sucked. My breasts were super sore I was being a major pain in the ass. And having my kid slap his head into my chest was the least awesome part about this. He would literally climb on top of me and bang his head on it thinking it was so funny. I continued to express a bit of milk every time I felt pain. Look the milk will eventually dry out. I was in no rush or need to get it to stop. So I just would express until I didn’t feel discomfort anymore.

 After about a week of this I could go 5-6 days without needing to get any milk out what so ever. The pain was completely gone after 2 weeks. I did need to use cold compresses a few times. I tried to use frozen veggies but they were so frozen that I could not get them to mold. All our other ice packs are for lunch bags so that didn’t work. After checking out the internet I found that using cabbage leaves could relieve some of the pain. I tried it for 2 days it seemed to help me. I don’t know if it was the cabbage for sure since it was the 2^nd week without breastfeeding. But at the time of pain I could have tried anything.  I hope my experience helps someone when the time to stop breastfeeding comes. But enjoy the time you have with your sweet baby because next thing you know they are 16^th months. What how does this happen. Seriously.   

Valentine's Day Gift Guide

It Feels like the new year has just started and already we are celebrating Valentine’s Day later on this week. Here are a few ideas on what gifts to get. I am so excited to celebrate this year it really makes a big difference as my son gets older. I look forward to all sorts of events that I never really did before. Whether it’s making festive cookies and picking up some valentine’s cards. I just love them so much more now with this little wild child running around. 

Kate Spade Satchel, Pink Layla Necklace, Kate Spade SquareStuds, Theo Dark Chocolate,  RoseCosmetic Pouch, Pink Moscato, O.P.I. Lacquer.

Justified Tee, Trophy Martini, Datevitation, Money Clip, Polar Watch, Chocolove.

Dear Angel, Dyson Vacuum, Mum Mum, Dear Angel, Carter for her Pj's, Mellisa and Doug Cookie Set, Carter for him Pj's. 

The dear angel products we were introduced to in our bluum box. They are really soft and easy to grab and go. Charles and my niece really love these little blankies.

We have most of the thing on the list except for the Dyson vacuum. I really want to get this for him because he is in love with our vacuum. When ever we are cleaning and he sees it he makes a beeline for it. I think I may have finally convinced my husband to let me get it for him. Hope this makes your Valentine’s Day shopping just a little easier or at least sparks an idea on what to get your loved ones. What’s the best gift you ever gave to someone on love’s day?

Sorry for the grainy picture but this was from my phone like 7 years ago.

Mine’s well was more like a prank in 07' some of my friends and I put like a thousand sticky notes on one of our friends new car and wrote all over it.

How I Stop Breastfeeding in 3 Nights!

Charles is now 15 months old at his last Doctors appointment our Doc told me It was time to stop breastfeeding. This is purely to help Charles eat more and get his weight up. He is currently weighing in at 17.6 lbs. How exciting I mean my goal is to get him to 20 pounds as soon as possible but any weight gain is a plus in our book. I always feel bad leaving doctors appointments because I feel like I failed my baby. Like no matter what I do he is not were he should be and that just breaks my heart. This was the first time I didn't feel bad leaving the G.I.'s office. So I am not complaining at all.

HE IS NOW A BIG BOY! Tear.

Now to how I stopped breastfeeding in 3 days and nights, Charles has slept in our bed most of his life. Like he only slept in his little rocker when he was a new born. Our doctor said that this would help him and stimulate him to eat more during the night. Now this is not for everyone and I get that. There are a lot of safety issues that could hurt your baby so again this is just how we did it. He sleep next to me and we moved his crib right next to the bed took his mattress out and laid it in between the bed and the crib for extra protection.

I would not wear a bra to go to sleep just a low cut shirt that was easy to pull down and feed. I learned to breastfeed laying down right away so this was easier to do at night. After the first month I never woke up and pumped or to feed at all. Charles would just eat when he was hungry. I could feel him tugging on my shirt I would pull out my breast and feed him. Then I would put him on my chest and burp. All things I did while totally half asleep. Now this is what made stopping breastfeeding harder. Because he was use to eating at night so it was tough but necessary.

The last night I breastfeed was January 24th I chose to do it on the weekend because we were not going to go out. So that night I feed him and totally took in the moment. This experience of breastfeeding has been the most amazing thing I have ever been able to do. If you are lucky enough to be able to breastfeed it is the way to go. I know it's hard and painful and doesn't work for everyone but hey I had a c-section and didn't get to birth my baby so tough. I kid that was something that I looked forward to forever but things have a way of working themselves out.

So any how I feed him and went to bed around 9:30. I also filled up his cup (Momma straw cup) with pediasure and put it over ice in a measuring cup to keep it cold over night and got his snack pack ready with bunny snacks.I did not trust myself without a bra but I knew that I could totally tug on it while asleep and still feed. So I wore one of my husbands sweatshirts and wore my bra on the outside and topped it off with a sports bra. Picture to come. LOL.

Around midnight I heard Charles tugging and complaining trying to eat. I then fully woke up turned on the TV but on some cartoons (Arthur you know the PBS show you use to watch)  and woke him up. I offered him some pediasure he drank a little then had some crackers and the next thing I new he was asleep. A few hours later the same thing happened and then again around 6 am. Then we woke up almost at 9:00 am. He was not drinking breast milk during the day for a while so no issues during the day. He wasn't super clinging either through out the day so we were good.

I repeated the same thing the next 2 nights and I noticed that the second night he only woke up twice. Yup 2 times! I also pumped about 4 ounces of milk tonight because I was freaking hurting. Like I felt so much pain in my Kidneys. Random right. on Sunday he only woke up once. My breast were not hurting so much but I did not pump I only squirted out a little when I was in the shower. By Monday he was not waking up during the night. And then I stopped wearing my bra's on the outside of my shirts. Oh and my breast don't hurt anymore! Yay time to get wasted! Without testing the milk!!! 

Now this is what worked for us and how we did it. How did y'all

My baby prince I love you!

stop breastfeeding, and how old were your little ones?